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| Fascination |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Fascination is one step beyond interest. Interested people want to know if it works. Fascinated people want to learn how it works.
Learn how to turn frustration into fascination. You will learn more being fascinated by life than you will being frustrated by it.
I’m on my way to the airport to catch a plane that leaves in 45 minutes. The traffic is not moving one inch. I am now fascinated—not frustrated, but fascinated. But I must admit, it doesn’t work every time.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-15-2010 5:45 PM |
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| The Worst Negative Emotion |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Envy is perhaps the worst of the negative emotions. Envy hurts and often destroys the possessor of the emotion, but it has no off-setting benefits or pleasures. If you engage in the cardinal sins of gluttony or lust, at least you get some pleasure or satisfaction in the process. But with envy, you only feel angry, hostile, resentful and often depressed and worthless. There is no payoff, and it doesn’t hurt or affect the person or persons it is aimed at. It only hurts the possessor.
The emotion of envy, combined with resentment, always requires there to be an “enemy.” Someone must be to blame. If someone is to blame, someone must be punished. That person must be taxed, regulated or even prosecuted. The more the envious person thinks about how evil this blameworthy person is, the angrier he becomes, and the more justified he feels in demanding that this person be made to suffer, in some way.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-14-2010 6:43 PM |
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| Practice Detachment |
by Andre Abouzeid
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It’s important to remember that no one can affect your thoughts or feelings unless there is something that you want from him, or something that you want him to refrain from doing. As soon as you begin to practice detachment and decide in your own mind that there is nothing that you want or expect from another person, you will find that his ability to shake your self-confidence is greatly reduced. The people who are the most successful in human relationships are those who practice a calm, healthy detachment from others, and although they are friendly and engaged in the conversation, they don’t allow the behaviors of others to determine how they think and feel about themselves.
As you can see, it is our fears and doubts that, more than anything else, undermine our self-esteem and self-confidence and cause us to think in negative terms about ourselves and our possibilities. As Maslow said, we begin to “sell ourselves short” and see all the reasons why something might not be possible for us. We magnify the difficulties and minimize the opportunities. We become preoccupied with the possible losses we might suffer and the possible criticisms we might endure. Our fears and doubts paralyze us, preventing us from acting boldly, lowering our self-confidence and causing us to think and talk in negative terms. In fact, this probably describes the great majority of mankind. Most people are so preoccupied with their fears that they have time for little else, and this preoccupation manifests itself in much of what they say and do.
The only real antidote to doubt and worry and fear and all the other negative emotions that sabotage our self-confidence is action. Your conscious mind can hold only one thought at a time, positive or negative. When you engage in systematic, purposeful action, using and stretching your abilities to the maximum, you cannot help but feel positive and confident about yourself.
Act as though it were impossible to fail. Act as though you already had a high level of self-confidence. And continually ask yourself, “What one great thing would I dare to achieve if I knew I could not fail?” Whatever your answer, you can have it if you can dream it, and if you have the self-confidence to go out and get it.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-13-2010 3:02 PM |
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| Take advantage of presentation training. |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Group speaking skills are critical, and especially important for small businesses looking to grow referrals and network in their industry or market. In addition, be able to effectively communicate to employee groups to build credibility and ensure consistent messaging about your expectations.... |
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-11-2010 6:48 PM |
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| Know Yourself and Your Potential |
by Andre Abouzeid
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The key is to be true to yourself, to be true to the very best that is in you, and to live your life consistent with your highest values and aspirations.
Take some time to think about who you are and what you believe in and what is important to you. Decide that you will never compromise your integrity by trying to be or say or feel something that is not true for you. Have the courage to accept yourself as you really are-not as you might be, or as someone else thinks you should be-and know that, taking everything into consideration, you are a pretty good person.
After all, we all have our own talents, skills and abilities that make us extraordinary. No one, including yourself, has any idea of your capabilities or of what you might ultimately do or become. Perhaps the hardest thing to do in life is to accept how extraordinary you really can be, and then to incorporate this awareness into your attitude and personality.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-10-2010 12:08 PM |
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| Make a Change |
by Andre Abouzeid
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The starting point of changing your beliefs is to get up the courage to question them seriously. Question your basic premises. Check your assumptions. Ask yourself, “What assumptions am I making about myself or my situation that might not be true?”
It’s a fact that we fall in love with our excuses and our negative assumptions. We fall in love with our reasons for not moving ahead.
The author Richard Bach wrote this beautiful line: “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.” Very often, we become the prosecuting attorney in the case against ourselves. We dispute and argue and attempt to prove to ourselves and others that our limitations are real. And the less justification these ideas or beliefs have, the more adamant we become in attempting to prove them to others.
Whatever they are, resolve to challenge them. Hold them up to the light. Imagine that you had absolute confidence in yourself in a particular area. Then, act as if it were impossible to fail, and it shall be!
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-09-2010 9:45 AM |
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| Enterprise |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Human beings have the remarkable ability to turn nothing into something. They can turn weeds into gardens and pennies into fortunes.
Enterprise is better than ease.
Showing a profit means touching something and leaving it better than you found it.
Enterprise is the hope of our future.
Profits are better than wages. Wages make you a living; profits make you a fortune.
We all know a variety of ways to make a living. What’s even more fascinating is figuring out ways to make a fortune.
Kids ought to have two bicycles, one to ride and one to rent.... |
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-08-2010 3:58 PM |
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| Concentration |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Concentration is having the self-discipline to force yourself to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing, the most important thing, and stay with it until it’s complete.
The two key words for success have always been focus and concentration.
Focus is knowing exactly what you want to be, have, and do. Concentration is persevering, without diversion or distraction, in a straight line toward accomplishing the things that can make a real difference in your life.
When you allow yourself to begin to dream big dreams, creatively abandon the activities that are taking up too much of your time, and focus your inward energies on alleviating your main constraints, you start to feel an incredible sense of power and confidence. As you focus on doing what you love to do and becoming excellent in those few areas that can make a real difference in your life, you begin to think in terms of possibilities rather than impossibilities, and you move ever closer toward the realization of your full potential.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-07-2010 6:00 PM |
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| Do the Thing You Fear |
by Andre Abouzeid
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Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote, “If you would become a success, you must resolve to confront your fears. If you do the things you fear, the death of fear is certain.”
You develop courage in yourself by facing your fears and doing the things that you are most afraid to do. In business, the greatest fear (after the fears of firing someone or being fired and financial loss or bankruptcy) is the fear of confrontation. Many people are afraid to make hard choices and deal with people in a clear, unequivocal, and straightforward way. They fear angry responses, argument, and conflict. This inability to confront people both inside and outside of the business can often be fatal to the enterprise.
Fortunately, courage can be developed by acting courageously. When you do something that you fear, you feel more courageous. In life, the courage follows the courageous behavior. You become courageous by acting courageously, even when you do not feel like it. Emerson also wrote, “Do the thing and you will have the power.” Don’t be afraid to make hard decisions, especially with regard to people and expenses.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-06-2010 11:48 AM |
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| You can do more of certain things |
by Andre Abouzeid
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What are the things that you should do more of? Obviously you should do more of the things that are working the very best for you already.
You should use more of the marketing and sales methods that are getting you face to face with the best customers, the ones that buy the most readily and who most appreciate the special features and benefits of your products and services.
It is amazing how many sales people lose track of their most effective selling methods, including networking on a regular basis with other sales professionals in your area, and start off doing something new, different and unproven. Then they are surprised when their sales drop and their income declines. Sometimes, the very best thing you can do is to get back to doing what is already working the very best for you.
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| Posted By Andre Abouzeid on Mar-04-2010 1:17 PM |
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